You think I don't communicate?
You say I don't ask for help? That I don't vocalize my needs and wants. But think again as you tend to say I am constantly nagging.
I do tell you what I need you to do or would like you to do, but you refuse to listen; either by deleting my texts or having it go in one ear and out the other.
So eventually I just shut down, because nothing ever changed when I did vocalize. So it is easy to see why I don't continue to address recurring problems in the household, if they always remain unresolved. Especially when you take that communication as a criticism, and it tends to turn into an argument.
Let's look at it this way, how many times have you told me you would do something or help me later, only to watch me do it myself.
Once my needs are communicated and ignored so many times, I eventually went silent and stopped asking for help. And let's be honest, you know that and weaponized that incompetence. You played stupid or acted like you needed simple tasks repeatedly broken down, knowing that eventually it was going to be less time consuming and less frustrating for me to just do it on my own.
You shouldn't have to be a mind reader to know what needs to be done in our home. You live there! And don't tell me you can't tell when I am exhausted.
Let's stop expecting a pat on the back and a well done for mopping an area of the floor...this isn't cub scouts! This is a marriage!
So please don't suggest that we are only failing as partners because you didn't get the memo.
Just because you didn't hear it, doesn't mean I didn't say it!